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I grew up with a romantic vision of what love and relationships would look like. I wanted a partner that lit a fire in my soul. I wanted passion, tension, and a deep connection. But I had absolutely no idea how to attract a partner and relationship that lived up to that vision.
As I got older, my childhood wounds (which we all have but often don’t deal with) started to throw bombs at my relationships. I felt like I just kept repeating toxic patterns, and I could not figure out what I was doing wrong.
One of my biggest “aha” moments, which I’ll be sharing with you in this article, came from my learning about polarity and how it influences and transforms our intimate relationships. In fact, everything I’ve learned has proved to be a game changer for me, including the manifestation of my current relationship (which has been a wild ride in itself, but that’s another story for another day).
Learning to step into your feminine energy (and understanding the law of polarity) is the secret sauce that will make life oh-so-sweet! So, let’s start at the beginning, shall we?
In it’s simplest form; Feminine energy is the divine, nurturing, and receptive force that flows within all of us. It’s the yin to the yang, the moon to the sun, and the calm to the storm. This energy is all about intuition, empathy, compassion, and surrender. It’s about learning to flow.
Most of the context of this article relates to a female-identifying woman with a male-identifying man, but, feminine energy is not limited to any gender. It’s a Universal force that we all possess. It’s not about being submissive or passive or weak; it’s about embracing your inner power and authenticity.
When you tap into your feminine energy, you connect with your intuition, emotions, and the ability to create deep, meaningful connections – with yourself, your partners and everything else in the Universe.
In the dance of existence, masculine and feminine energies flow through the Universe in perfect harmony and balance. The concept of polarity is central to understanding the dynamics of relationships. Each of us has both masculine and feminine energies, and when it comes to love, it’s about finding the perfect balance.
The masculine energy is like the sun, radiating strength, action, and assertiveness. The feminine energy is like the moon, with its grace, intuition, and receptivity. Each has its own unique strengths, and each is central to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It’s not about pitting one against the other but learning how to harmonize these energies.
The Universe thrives on duality, and so do our relationships.
Picture it like this: in a magnetic field, opposites attract, right? It’s the same with energy in relationships. When you have a balance of masculine and feminine energies, you create a magnetic attraction that ignites passion and depth. The masculine energy is strong, assertive, and action-oriented, while the feminine energy is soft, nurturing, and intuitive.
This dynamic creates the spark, the electric charge that keeps things interesting. When there’s a clear polarity, you and your partner can complement each other and elevate your connection to a whole new level.
Always trust your gut feelings and listen to that little voice inside your head. If something feels right or wrong, honour that feeling. Women are incredibly intuitive beings, don’t stifle your inner voice, she’s powerful.
Engage in activities that allow your creative juices to flow. Whether it’s painting, writing, or dancing, creativity is a direct channel to your feminine essence. You don’t have to be a trained artist to be creative, and adults sometimes forget this. For some fun inspo, check out these videos:
Don’t forget to treat yourself like the goddess you are! Create self-care rituals that replenish your energy. It could be a soothing bath, meditation, or a quiet walk in nature.
Check out our article on Morning Rituals for Spiritual Self-Care for inspo.
Speaking of nature, spending time outdoors connects you with the natural rhythm of Mother Earth. It’s a grounding experience that can resonate deeply with your feminine energy. The next time you go on a walk, try to do it without your phone (i.e music, podcasts, social media, distractions). Really notice the trees, the flowers, the birds and connect with the world around you.
In this modern world of the ‘girl boss,’ women often feel the need to do and be more (and more and more!) Allow yourself to receive without feeling the need to reciprocate immediately. This can be as simple as accepting a compliment or letting someone else take the lead.
You know those women who just feel like home? They’re easy to talk to and they make you feel seen and heard? BE that woman for the people in your life! Approach your relationships with a nurturing mindset. Show empathy, offer support, and create a safe space for others to express themselves.
Yesterday already happened, and tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. All we have is now! Practice mindfulness. Being present in the moment allows you to fully experience life and connect with your emotions on a deeper level.
If you need some help, check out this Mindfulness Meditation by Dr. Joe Dispenza (aka Daddy Joe).
Feel all the feels! Allow your emotions to flow freely and without judgment. Whether it’s joy, sadness, anger, or passion, expressing your feelings is a beautiful and authentic way to embody feminine energy. Feeling, in itself, is inherently feminine.
Connect with your senses. Appreciate the taste of a delicious meal, the feeling of silk against your skin, and the fresh scent of dew in the morning. Try to slow down and engage with all your senses every day. This can look like taking a moment to close your eyes and ask yourself what senses are engaged. What can you hear? see? smell? taste? touch?
Life is meant to be enjoyed! Seek pleasure in both everyday and luxurious experiences. It could be savouring a piece of yummy dessert, enjoying a hot-girl bubble bath, or treating yourself to a day at the spa. This applies to the sexy stuff too. Make your own pleasure a priority, whether it’s with a partner or on your own. Pleasure gives you feminine power.
As a first-born daughter who has always felt safer being in control, this one is sometimes hard for me. Being in rigid control is an inherently masculine trait and doesn’t feel good for the feminine. Release the need to control every aspect of your life (and the lives of those around you). Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up; it means trusting that the Universe has a plan, and you’re a part of it. Loosen the vice grip that you have on your life and watch the magic happen.
It feels better to be optimistic and positive, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Of course, the stress and challenges of life may bring you down sometimes, but the key is to not allow yourself to sit in those low vibes for too long. Let your light shine. Approach challenges with a positive mindset, trusting the Universe to steer you down the right path.
The feminine was meant to flow! Explore activities that involve flowing, sensual movements. Yoga, dancing, or even just swaying to music in your living room can reconnect you with your feminine essence.
If you’re not ready to sign up for a class or dance in public, here are some great videos to help you move at home:
Yoga with Adriene
The collective energy of supportive female friendships can be incredibly empowering. There is incredible power in having a group of women to support and uplift you—an energy that you just can’t get from male friendships. Surround yourself with like-minded women and support each other’s feminine embodiment.
Some feminine qualities in a relationship are nurturing, empathy, compassion, and receptivity. Some of these qualities can also be defined as maternal, but don’t get it twisted, we are NOT here to mother our partners. It’s about being in tune with your emotions, expressing your feelings and needs openly and honestly, and creating a safe space for your partner to do the same. It’s about leaning back and letting go of control so the masculine can lead.
You can usually tell when someone is in their feminine energy by their behaviour and their energy (or aura). They’ll often appear relaxed, open, and confident. They’re comfortable with vulnerability and express their feelings openly. It’s about embracing their intuition and going with the flow, rather than trying to control every situation. When someone is in their feminine energy, you’ll feel a sense of ease and connection with them, like you’re both on the same wavelength.
Feminine energy naturally attracts masculine energy like a magnet! The thing is, masculine energy is drawn to the yin to its yang, it’s opposite, which is feminine energy. When you’re in your feminine, you create space for your partner’s masculine energy to shine. A man being in his masculine also helps you lean back into your feminine with more ease. This dynamic creates a beautiful balance and harmony in the relationship. A masculine man feels appreciated, valued, and empowered when he’s with a woman who embodies her feminine energy.
Staying in your feminine energy while dating is all about being true to yourself and embracing your authentic qualities. It’s about taking off the mask and trying to be everything you THINK you’re supposed to be. It’s about letting go of control, trusting your intuition, and allowing the relationship to unfold naturally. Remember, vulnerability is your superpower, so don’t be afraid to express your emotions, needs, and desires. Be receptive and open to your partners’ energy, and let them take the lead when it feels right. It’s all about going with the flow and enjoying the journey without worrying too much about the destination. TRUST in the Universe!
Absolutely! Feminine energy is not confined by gender. It’s a Universal force that anyone can tap into to improve their relationships. Embracing feminine energy doesn’t make you any less of a man; it amplifies your authenticity and emotional depth. But remember, polarity is key in the balance of energies. If your man is leaning into his feminine, you’ll naturally dip into your masculine, and vice versa.
As you start embracing feminine energy, you’ll start to feel more at ease and more in tune with the Universe (almost immediately!) This shift in how you FEEL and see yourself will also create positive changes in how you attract and experience love. I do believe in Divine Timing and try not to focus on the ‘how’ or the ‘when.’ The cosmic shifts may be subtle initially, but they will grow over time.
1. Feminine Energy is Universal:
2. Qualities of Feminine Energy:
3. The Dance of Masculine and Feminine Energies:
4. Embrace Vulnerability:
5. Trust Your Intuition:
6. Create Space for Love:
7. Feminine Energy Attracts Masculine Energy:
8. Practice Practical Ways to Embody Feminine Energy:
Becoming completely comfortable with yourself and embodying your natural feminine energy is a lifelong journey. We all have wounds that need healing as we try to deepen the connection with ourselves and with the Universe. Ultimately, trust yourself and what feels right for you. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest.
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