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If you’ve been feeling the weight of control, stress, and the daily pressure to hustle and grind, you’re not alone. Our society tends to glorify masculine energy and the idea that success and fulfillment need to be hard. For years, I wholeheartedly believed that I had to ‘push’ for what I wanted, attempting to control every aspect of my life.
The terms ‘soft girl’ and ‘soft life’ were made popular in recent years thanks to emerging TikTok and Instagram trends focused on a lifestyle with more ease, more flow, and more femininity… essentially, a lifestyle that is more ‘soft’. Opposite to the idea of the ‘girl boss’, focused on hustle, grind, and force.
Neither lifestyle is necessarily wrong or right. It’s about creating a life and lifestyle that feels right for you, your goals and what you want your life to look like and aligning your energy to match.
In this article, you’ll learn to understand the essence of a ‘soft life’ and how to gracefully transition into your soft girl era – a.k.a your most magical year yet!
A woman who protects her peace. Her health and wellbeing, both physical and mental, are a priority. She looks well-kept, put-together and feminine. She doesn’t engage in drama or harmful relationships of any kind.
To truly understand the energy of a soft life, we need to understand feminine energy.
Feminine energy is the gentle force that nurtures, creates, and allows things to unfold naturally. Unlike its masculine counterpart, which is all about structure and control, feminine energy flows, adapts, and trusts the Universe’s natural rhythm.
To explore more about Feminine Energy, check out:
12 Steps To Connect To Your Divine Feminine Energy
The first step to change, in any area of life, is recognizing and acknowledging what needs to change.
Reflect on areas of your life that feel rigid or stressful or where you feel you ‘force’ things. Identify patterns of control that may be hindering your ability to flow with life’s natural rhythm.
Embrace the idea that surrendering can be powerful. It’s easier said than done, but try to release the need for control. Think about how different you’d feel if you just allowed things to ‘be’ instead of attempting to force outcomes.
Make a list of all of the things or areas of your life that you try to control, or that feel stressful or out of balance. One at a time, consciously ‘release’ yourself from the burden of having to control each thing.
A key element in creating a soft life is slowing down and connecting with your intuition.
Consciously create moments of stillness each day, whether through meditation, yoga, or mindful (music & distraction-free) walks.
When you connect and develop your intuition, you learn to trust your gut. Living a soft life is all about doing what feels good and less about doing what you think you should.
For more ideas on how to cultivate mindful awareness, check out:
A soft life is focused on nurturing your mind, body, and spirit and prioritizing self-care above all else.
Craft your own personalized self-care routine and make it a priority. Creating something personal that feels good for you is the key to sticking to any routine. It shouldn’t feel like work; it should feel like flow.
Your self-care routine could include activities like indulgent skin care, mindful journaling, indulging in a good book, taking soothing baths, or practicing yoga or pilates.
To kickstart your self-care routine, check out:
It’s not a coincidence that the moon and a woman’s cycle are both approximately 28 days. The moon is the planetary embodiment of feminine energy and aligning with her energy gives you power.
Tap into the feminine energy of the moon by aligning your intentions with its phases. During the new moon, set intentions for the upcoming cycle. As the moon waxes, watch your intentions grow. During the waning phases, take aligned action and culminate with the full moon by releasing what no longer serves you.
Check out this useful tool for harnessing lunar energy:
There is so much to be said about creating a personal aesthetic, reflected in your appearance and environment. Creating a physical and emotional environment that reflects the softness you’re cultivating will give you the confidence to be your most authentic self.
Create a personal style that is deliberately feminine, whatever that looks like for you. For me, that includes delicate fabrics, neutral hues, and cute or girly accessories.
To further embody softness, infuse your living space with cozy textures, calming colors, and elements that bring you joy. I feel instantly empowered when I walk into my apartment and am greeted by beautiful artwork, textiles, books and plants.
This also extends to the people you surround yourself with. The people in your life either lift you up or bring you down. That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with people who uplift and support you.
In a soft life, goals are set with intention and flexibility. Define what you want to manifest, but allow room for the Universe to do its thing and work its magic. You work with the timeline of the Universe – not one you forcefully set for yourself.
Be open to detours and unexpected opportunities, trusting that they’re leading you toward your desired outcome (or something even better!). This also includes developing grace when challenges come up (because they always do!). Cultivate resilience by understanding that setbacks aren’t failures but growth opportunities.
Approach life with a gentle spirit, knowing that each experience is a gift and a lesson on your path throughout this lifetime.
Embodying soft girl energy and embracing a soft life is a transformative journey that you’ll thank yourself for taking.
There is so much strength in showing up in the world as your authentic self. Softness will empower you through the vulnerability of authenticity. Expressing your true self will also attract connections and opportunities that will align perfectly with your path.
Soft girl energy will also help you align your intentions with your authentic self and the natural flow of the Universe, strengthening your manifestations. You’ll be empowered to trust in divine timing and have faith in your journey as it unfolds, in all its messy and beautiful glory.
Ultimately, embodying soft girl energy and a soft life will transform you – celebrating authenticity, embracing vulnerability, and dancing with the subtle energies of the Universe.
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